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    One step away from #Gosnell

    One step away from #Gosnell

    The author doesn’t have the guts to put his name on it.

    Not surprised.

    As horrible as this might sound, we found ourselves wishing these twins away.

    We considered a reduction for about 30 seconds. (That’s essentially an abortion of one twin, not both.) If you thought that IVF involved playing God, a reduction felt beyond brazen — Machiavellian, even. Give us a reason, we thought, as we had the twins tested for genetic anomalies. None came….

    Our fear is not the new parent fear of the unknown. It’s the smart, informed fear of the known. Our biggest nightmare is that we’ll have colic again, or double colic. This time around, we’re counting down — not like expecting parents but like cancer patients with only months to live. Enjoy life while you can, for soon it’s double the diapers, double the feedings. Half of zero sleep is … less than zero?

    So tell me how this isn’t going to suck. (Did I mention we live in a one-bedroom apartment?) Sure, in 10 years I could have close to a starting five of super-athletic, NBA-hopeful alpha males living under my roof smelling up the joint. But right now it’s hard for us to see twins as good news.

    I’m trying not to be so bitter and to embrace what’s ahead of us. It’s possible these kids will sleep at some point, I suppose. In the meantime, I’ve promised to stop referring to one of the boys as “extra” and have told my wife I will try to refrain from calling my first-born son “the free one.”

    With four months left to go, I’m not sure what stage we’re in at the moment — but it’s not acceptance. My wife and I even both privately admitted that we don’t like the new children, which is of course insane. Excited? We’re not there yet. Terrified? Yes, when we’re not practicing denial.

    They say the most important thing is the kids’ health — but what about ours?

    Beyond words.


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    Valerie | May 7, 2013 at 1:50 pm

    Remember some of the whining soldier stories that got national publicity and turned out to be fake?

    Just sayin’

    J. Locke | May 7, 2013 at 2:42 pm

    “They say the most important thing is the kids’ health — but what about ours?”. Wow. We ahve bred a generation of self centered post modern wimps. I weep for my country

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